The saying, “two’s company, three’s a crowd” is associated with lovers wanting to be alone. It most assuredly does not pertain to my experience as a father.
Many people are satisfied and extremely happy raising one child in this challenging economy, whereas, other couples feel compelled to achieve the ultimate dream of motherhood and fatherhood—having a boy and a girl. My vision of a perfect family fell in the latter—a boy for me and a girl for my wife.
I think it is every man’s desire to have a son first and then whatever happens after that, a “so be it” attitude emerges; as long as he got his son to carry on his name; go hunting or fishing with; enjoy the camaraderie of attending games together; and the list goes on.
In my world of parenting I was fortunate to get my son first and then my darling daughter came along…a perfect and complete family sent from heaven; right? Yes, my wife and I were ecstatic with the blessings that God had bestowed upon us in the form of two precious lives to call our own, but something wasn’t quite right.
I can’t explain what my wife and I felt a short time later after our daughter was born. It was a sense of “something’s missing.” Although we were elated with the things that God was doing in our marriage, the number ‘three’ kept bombarding our mind.
We were living for the Lord and putting Him first in our life and believed that if we put God at the head of our list of wants that He would give us the desires of our heart, which we strived daily to do. We trusted the Bible scripture that is found in the book of (Psalm).
(Psalm 37:4-5), “Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He shall give you the desires of your heart.” vs.5 “Commit your way to the Lord, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.”
Was it that we were to achieve our quest for completeness through the adding of pets or an aquarium full of fish to our already perfect marriage? What was missing? There was a void that nothing that we tried could fill.
We finally realized what was absent in our loving home. It was the missing piece to the beautiful picture of what a perfect marriage, for us, was supposed to look like. The picture was incomplete, because a third child was missing.
Some people looked at us as if we were short on good sense. Did we not already have the ideal family with a boy and girl? They had “two’s company, three’s a crowd” type thinking, but they were not walking in our moccasins, as it were. They were not privy to, nor could they feel the yearning that was in our heart. Our philosophy and focus was not on what we had, though we were much aware of our blessings, but what we didn’t have—the missing piece.
In our young experience and beginning stages of raising two children, my wife and I took what we felt and placed it before the Lord. Our need and compelling desire for one more blessing from above was on the altar. We believe to this day that three is not a crowd; in fact, our last accomplishment as parents has proven to be far above all that we could ask or hope for. Bryan
(Ephesians 3:20-21), “Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us,” vs.21 “to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen.”
My son is and has been a pleasure to say the least; a joy in every sense of the word. His concern for our wellbeing goes without saying—above and beyond the norm.
Bryan is most aware of the beauty of family and the importance of maintaining a loving connection with his heritage, especially now that he and his beautiful wife are raising a family of their own. He knows the importance of his legacy and birthright.
Three is not a crowd when the third person is someone like my son. He greets me with a kiss on the cheek, even in public. It is not something that he feels strange in doing, because it is a part of his makeup. He makes me feel important and loved. I cannot express in words how deeply my love for him lies. He is my ‘left-hand’ man that loves his mom and dad with all of his heart. What more could two parents ask for?
Moreover, our missing piece serves God and wants the Lord to be at the head of his household. He and his dear wife, Glenda, give love unreservedly to their son, Hudson. Three is not a crowd with him in their lives. Hudson
An important side note…Three is not a crowd when the Holy Spirit takes up residence in a person’s soul, as He did on the Day of Pentecost when God sent the Promise of the Holy Spirit that Jesus had commanded His apostles to wait for; (Acts 1:4-5). One hundred and twenty people were endued with power from on high as they tarried in an upper room; (Acts: Chapter 2).
Three is a good number…The Father; the Son; and the Holy Spirit—the Trinity.
Written by,
Papa Boyd
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