Some people live their whole life running on half empty. They never experience the fullness of God’s love, nor the peace He offers, because they made the choice not to. When a person lacks these wonderful gifts in their life, a gnawing emptiness influences how they view the world around them. A glass half filled is seen as half empty, rather than half full. This is generally reflective of the half empty feeling they have.
A person’s state of mind, whether positive or negative, dictates the way they perceive life. People that live a half empty existence usually associate with other people having similar levels of needs. The saying, “Birds of a feather flock together,” is a true statement even in matrimony.
Half empty people that associate with half empty people, as a rule, end up marrying them. Problems arise when a spouse lacks social skills and mental stability that are needed so desperately in a marriage, especially if they are spiritually bankrupt.
These limitations or weaknesses are red flags that reveal a person’s makeup and general mind-set, which, on average, are characteristic of people that require professional counseling. Those with limited capacities are not the most desirable choices when searching for a lifetime companion. Disappointment lurks around the corner for anyone that chooses an unstable person to marry.
To make any marriage successful takes both parties knowing themselves; realizing what they want to achieve in life; and what steps are needed to get there. It requires perseverance with God’s help and direction to achieve desired goals. These qualities in both husband and wife make the partnership most favorable.
A common mistake that people make is to believe they can change another person’s mental outlook. This misconception can lead to bad decisions, because good judgment takes flight. The ability to make a difference in other people is limited at best—miracles are God’s business. A half empty person that wants to influence another half empty person is naïve to think they can do so in their own strength.
They fail to realize that running on half empty themselves, they cannot afford to give their half to anyone else. Losing the 50% they have leaves nothing at all to sustain them. Frustration, anxiety, and nervous disorders follow.
There are people recognized as being enablers that can become misguided individuals if they throw caution to the wind. Some think they can rescue a social misfit that is not ready to be rescued. Enablers believe they can help the ne’er-do-well by providing their needs.
This kind of logic allows those that are running on half empty to continue a lifestyle of mediocrity, rather than finding ways to become full; with purpose. This drains an enabler of their own delicate wellbeing, because they give and give, yet receive nothing in return. Seldom are they replenished with the compassion and consideration they have imparted to half empty takers. The enabler, now empty their self, feels defeated and crushed; but God is still on the throne to give potency when renewed energy is needed.
God is concerned about our state of mind and wants to restore freshness. All we need do is reach out to Jesus and cast our cares upon Him. He will take the heavy burdens and carry them for us.
(1 Peter 5:7), “Casting all your cares upon Him for He cares for you.”
The solid foundation that is required for building an excellent relationship is not based upon 50/50 giving. It takes 100% from both parties giving to each other to make a marriage prosperous. Working at a marriage is the key.
When diligence is applied to mutual goals, with respect and love for one another, a lasting relationship ensues. This endeavor provides strength for the hard challenges that lie ahead. All relationships have troubling times, but when two people have a made up mind to commit 100% of themselves to the marriage, plus allowing God to be Lord of their home, these important factors add up to success and happiness.
Everyone has strong and weak points. When a married couple shares their strong points with one another and gives their counterpart 100%, they both remain full, because each is giving all they have to the other person; at the same time receiving as much as they give away from themselves. This act of giving and receiving facilitates weaker areas to become stronger, because two people are pulling together in the same direction.
When a person invites the fullness of God into their heart, the half empty existence they were living is over. God fills the emptiness to its full capacity with love and peace. He provides whatever is needed for making good decisions and informed choices.
When a person is full of God’s Spirit and they allow the Lord to bring another person into their life that is also Spirit filled, the equation looks something like this…(100% + 100% = God’s Abundant Life).
In a marriage, God uses both individuals working together to help the process of keeping their spouse satisfied. Neither party drains the other person, because they refuse to live a half empty existence. They remain full of understanding, kindness, and consideration for each other. This is accomplished with the help of the Holy Spirit.
(Philippians 4:13), “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
Papa Boyd
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